Category: the Rant Board
my cousin keeps insisting on bringing her boy friend here, and I'm tired of it! It's not fair because sometimes, I cant even come out of my room comfortably! They just sit there and watch tv, I dont even know what they do! Not only that, but they totally disrespect the house, and the family! They sit on the couch hugging, and then they take off there shoes and lay down kissing, right in the living room in front of everybody! Oh yeah, and eat up all the food! They dont even have a life! My grandma is also tired of him coming here, and she says she's going to tell my aunt something so that he's not here everyday! Unfortunately, my grandma is very passive, and she lets people walk all over her more than I do! I want to tell my aunt something, even though my grandma advises me against it. but she gets mad easily, and I have to depend on my aunt for school purposes, and so if I upset her, she may not want to help me, and i need her help! Also my grandma depends a lot on my aunt for groceries. We dont have a lot of money right now, and it's not fair on us that we're having to eat less, while meanwhile, my cousin and her stupid boyfriend can go out to eat, or come over and eat up all our food! He eats a lot!
I cant even have the least bit of privacy that I used to be able to have, nor can I enjoy the peace and quiet and relaxation I used to be able to, and I'm not sure what to do! This is really getting on my nerves, and if I dont do something soon, I will explode on my cousin! Any suggestions?
Move out. Why should you have to take that crap? If you can't afford your own place, see if you and a friend can move in together, and if you're comfortable, maybe you can get a place for you and your grandma. But, I don't know your aa situation so if you can't move, just talk to your aunt politely. You don't have to be rude or defensive about it. If it turns hostile, you may want to consider finding another form of financial assistance. Maybe you need a job, or maybe financial aid in your school can help you. I don't know, but something has to give.
Why not talk to your cousin and her boyfriend? I mean, why do they need to crash at your place? Maybe, they just don't realise that it's upsetting you because no one ever said anything.
yeah agree tif, talk to them. then they will know how you feel
At least they take off their shoes. Also, talk to them.
You have the right to feel safe in your living space, and the fact that you depend on your aunt shouldn't be used as a reason to keep you feeling disrespected and uncomfortable. I suggest you speak to your cousin directly; she's doing the smooching on the couch, not your aunt. Do you have a good enough relationship with your cousin to approach her about it?
Indeed, talk to your cousin about the issue at hand.
just talk, lol. talking's always good. dont hold it inside
Sounds lame, lol, but it helps.